Today’s a light in thought day!
I just realised I had a brand new answer to the “why is someone like you still single?”
Smart Mind says: “Oh just tell them that you’re married to your Vision and that you now have two children, Intertainment & Foundation. That your Vision supports you and your children are still too young for you to have an Extra Marital Affair!
The one major lesson you learn as an entrepreneur, especially in the first TRIMESTER ( the first 3 years are the most volatile years) is that the more you become the brand, the brand grows through you and with you. It is a transformational experience both in the way you perceive and how you perceive life in general and work in particular.
A wonderful metaphor for raising your thought to HOW AN ENTRERENEUR should THINK, is to METAPHORICALLY transform your VISION into a LIFE PARTNER, someone you LIVE with 24/7 and may not always agree with or have great success with, yet, appreciate and learn from and learn to live with, over a period of time.
That one moment, when an VISION becomes central to you and you can’t do without it or get cold feet when you need to take action… well that is the moment you make the ultimate commitment, you either MARRY the VISION or ditch it. Divorces in real life, now seem like a sign, that there is a larger community of us who are “relationship claustrophobic” something I realised about myself late last year, and decided to REMEDY with intent in 2013. Fascinated, I am at HOW, one decision to CLEAR the block, has really filtered in many areas of my life. IF ALL OF LIFE IS CO-INSPIRED AND DESTINED, we are called to perspective changes in ALL AREAS OF OUR LIVES.
The Vision creates new relationships, you network, you share, you begin a life together. There is usually not a thought, word or deed, that doesn’t have a connect with your vision. CAUTION: This is the time, when people think you’ve lost your marbles or sold them to the “kabadiwala”, they snigger, they will tell you that you’re dreaming, the world is not a safe place to dream, they want to know how you are really securing yourself financially the most famous question “what is your revenue model”. Everyone, knows your vision, ONLY and ONLY by words, they haven’t met or seen it YET! There are always more reasons to ditch a VISION if you don’t feel like it will give you RESULTS/OUTCOMES/REVENUE and above all, SECURITY! When all of the deterrents haven’t made you change your mind, you are finally and truly committed… and you begin to CREATE with your VISION and that is when the real TRYST with destiny begins! The longer the courtship with vision, the more settled the emotions are… you’ve hated, dated, had your tantrums, been jealous, felt insecure and then comes the BIG MOMENT… Then comes the thrill, you speak, you romance, you make love to the vision, till you begin to feel and know the vision, like it was another person… and ideas are born!
This is the beginning of PARENTHOOD: Vision + You = Ideas
Ideas are like pregnancies, it takes 40 weeks of gestation, then again, there are premature ideas, miscarriages, abortions, surrogacies, 8 month scares and hormonal changes, mood swings, bloating, swollen feet… oh well, this is starting to read like a pregnancy manual! Then again, the truth is, you go through phenomenal changes, when an idea is set to become an identity, in entrepreneurial terms… well, team, revenue, funds, marketing, sales, social media, pr, advertising, engagement, planning and saving up and scrounging! Every tiny detail is felt both emotionally and physically. The fun part is all the ADVICE simply walks in and tears your PLANNING apart, more than enjoying the process, you get bogged down by “CAUTION ALERTS”, so you keep trying to figure out WHAT CAN GO WRONG and WHAT YOU NEED TO DO “IF” it does! You always know, that if the baby is healthy and handsome/pretty, the whole lot of people will love adore and want to adopt it. YOU also figure out, that if anything does go wrong, well, you’ll be the centre of a “pity parade”. It is this moment that you CHOOSE to focus on all the things YOU need to be so that when the IDEA matures and grows into an IDENTITY, the IDENTITY is strong enough to HOLD ITSELF and make you a proud parent.
I must also add here, that as an ENTREPRENEUR in the making, this is the most CRUCIAL PERIOD, everyone expects you to DELIVER and yet, no one can actually experience, what you’re feeling or how you’re dealing with the journey. Everyone, will walk in and congratulate you… they’ll ask questions, expect answers, tell you what you’re doing wrong. Everyone also feels free to recommend doctors and therapies and food and reading material and classes and loads of other “must do”, this is the most stress inducing time for an idea. You tend to get irritable and impatient and the only support you will ever really need though, is in the relationship with your VISION. The ONE most important relationship that gets SEALED is really the relationship with your VISION. When the time comes closer, your vision is the first co-owner, co-creator and co-energy. Your VISION needs you more now, since, the idea, is part of the both of you!
40 weeks is what it takes… and in these 40 weeks, you grow with your idea and feel the idea and breathe the idea and learn to GO WITH THE FLOW of the moment. Whether MALE or FEMALE, these 40 weeks are a given, if you have to GROW your RELATIONSHIP into a LIFE EVENT… a CHILD and GRADUATE from IDEA to REALITY or COUPLE to FAMILY or INDIVIDUALS to PARENTS. This is the time really when you grow from and INTERN to an ENTREPRENUR, a husband to a Daddy or from a wife to a Mother.
Most times, we get so bogged down by the MUST DO’s that we often don’t take time to enjoy the journey! When I look back at the last 3 years of being a parent METAPHORICALLY I am filled with a certain sense of divine intervention of the key “things that happened along the way”
- I courted the VISION of “I wasn’t created to do small things” since I was 17
- Been through many relationships really… from Wizcraft, to Executive Access, to Radio City, to Showtime, a flirtation with Freelancing, and got back to Showtime, then Times of India 360 degrees before I got a surprise promotion to Mumbai with Radio Mirchi! Every relationship taught me to love what I did and learn about what I wanted. The vision wasn’t LOUD, it was just there, lurking, waiting for me to choose to COMMIT. The kind of partner that loves you enough to let you know they will always be around till you CHOOSE them above all else!
- In 2009, I started feeling like I was missing something vital in all my communication I was alone, working everyday towards someone else’s vision. I quit worrying about the future and married my VISION. To take this big step I quit life like I knew it. My VISION promised me everything I ever wanted… a family, friends, feelings and a future. The PROPSAL was simple “hi I am DeePositive, will you MARRY ME!” I said “YES” and the life changes began!
- In Jan 2010: 27th Jan 2010, I quit my relationship with “radio mirchi” and committed to the DeePositive Vision. 27th was the day I returned to Delhi with the DeePositive Vision, in November the same year, our first idea was born, Intertainment! Strangely it took 40 weeks for me to finally Announce the Birth of DeePositive Intertainment on the 15th of November 2010. ( will need another post to tell you about all that happened ; ) ) The thoughts fears, the stress, distress, changes, advice and shattered state of being. The day Intertainment was registered, was when I formally became a Mother for the first time… glad I has my little sister… Prema Evelyn to HELP me consolidate my RELATIONSHIP with VISION and our IDEA into a reality! That was the day I graduated into what I know now as the term ENTREPRENEUR! The first three months of Intertainment were filled with Congratulatory moments of pure joy… by the time Intertainment was 5 months old, my baby had created a ripple… prodigy for a new born… international clients, international events and well a whole lot of national clients and glory. Intertainment walked strong! The experience so wonderful that VISION decided it was time for the NEXT leap in creating and we decided to have a second one, soon, so that the elder one, doesn’t get all lonely, also, before we completely indulged in stressing one IDEA into being all WE knew we were meant to be! It is a “parent patent” to stress themselves planning the child’s future from the very onset, we however, wanted to parent in a very different style, we knew, we needed more ideas to divert our attention from stressing Intertainment to be our only purpose. And that is when WE took the decision to create another idea, with a more global intent and we chose to create of GRATITUDE, the force that brought us together.
- Feb 2011, an idea called “Santa workshop” became our second idea that needed to breathe and Gratitude became our intent for the growth of this idea. This time around, courtesy Intertainment and our experiences, it was a more confident and knowing journey of 40 weeks and we knew, that Santa Workshop would only be the beginning, This second idea, we were co-inspiring and co-creating was meant to be more global, universal, more potent, reach more people, change lives, change perspective and create experiences. The 40 weeks that followed our decision, well, we nurtured ourselves, spent quality experiences trying what it would feel like, to expand Gratitude into an identity and how these experiences will change the world as we knew it. Our world and the world we lived in, how both would overflow with Gratitude and create again, from Gratitude itself.
- 16th November of 2011, DeePositive Foundation was born, proud parents with a wonderful team of God Parents Ashok Singh and Prema Evelyn D’Cruz, our first dedication to Gratitude, “Santa workshop” which we dedicated to Gratitude on the 18th of November and a brand new vision of Gratitude was born, today 18 months later, Santa Workshop is a an overflowing gift of gratitude to us and to those who connect with it. Foundation has created powerful experiences and continues to create through us. Now 18months old and yet, has grown to be known by its own name. Created ripples with Santa Workshop, G.I.V.E, GOLD, L.I.V.E and now with the Intern to Entrepreneur Programme, Foundation has become an identity with its own VISION… and the courtship with Gratitude has become the NEW US!
- DeePositive Vision is Gratitude and a brand new journey has begun, I graduated from an Entrepreneur to a Visionary, just watching my Foundation chart its own path and live out another vision.
oh… this post has filled me with awe… the metaphor… so perfect… As I looked back at how far we’ve reached, Dedicated Enthusiastic Empowered and Positive vision has been a perfect SOULMATE, a LIFE PARTNER without compare! And silly me, I was getting all worked up about being 36 and single! A perspective like this can TRANSFORM into a PERFECT FAIRYTALE, a happy ever after! *sigh*
… So, busy going through the MOTIONS of a HIGH PRESSURE life… missing out on the fascinating clues… all around… waiting to be ALLOWED & ACCEPTED… that they may MANIFEST in their TRUE… GLORY… through you!!
and here’s the page that let me into the essence of the vibration of the year … 
and by then, you’ve done what you need to make a brand of yourself… that NO ONE CAN EVER TAKE AWAY FROM YOU!
