The Co-Inspired Life: S.T.O.P

I wil begin where S.T.O.P began for me… to thank the opportunity to celebrate a new life lesson

It all began for me this morning… when I responded to a question… I hadn’t thought about… since Positive Vibes began it’s Facebook journey… a graduation of sorts from being “the secret” community on Orkut…

What got me thinking… well the ONLY three posts from other members… funny, I thought there would be many more… who’d speak for us… then again… those were but, MY expectations . I hadn’t ever thought in this direction… I was so CONTENT with the fantastic CONTENT we create together… just a very powerfully and positively vibrating space of diverse energies… in communication!!

…. what surprised me is the silent questions… that ONLY SOME have the courage to ask… and still fewer have the courage to respond to!! Then again… maybe… it was more about… something else here… I didn’t realise… till later… well, you’ll have to keep reading this piece to find out!!… Anyway… here’s what Gaurav’s query was really about!!

Ouch… I didn’t know… we came across as some SCAM!! ha ha ha… to think of it… maybe… I guess… it was the answer appeared to the visual screen of my mind… I knew WHY… It is the first time… I actually thought about … what it meant to create Positive Vibes… and the why of the absolutely brilliant energy we create together… Here’s what I couldn’t resist posting… at 5 am!!!

What we have created here is a powerful coming together ... Where our turnovers come in the form of personal growth... By sharing with the intent of inspiring each other to reach our maximum potential... Share our fears... Ask for answers... Learn from each other... Our turnover... Is the growth we see in our own lives and the lives of other family members! Our turnover is in the power of all being equally equipped to lead by example... Our turnover is in the experience of a deep trust... Most of us haven't met... Yet we are connected ... Just realised... How precious and amazing we really are.... Had it not been for your question... My Gratitude would've been incomplete... Thank you Gaurav for asking :) :Deepanjali

I slept in peace… knowing… the answer had found my question… and radiated out into my sharing… 

I woke up to another THOUGHT PROVOKING status update… from one of my favourites… Someone… who puts up status messages that resonate into my own personal thoughts… My Gratitude Angel… Farah Pasha!!

I have had the lonely tag… for a larger part of my life… it is an observation… people have made of me… and sometimes… wicked wicked… I’ve used it to my benefit … ha ha ha… then again… what did come to mind… the honest truth… something I hadn’t thought of before… I realised I kinda liked being lonely… strange but true… here’s what LET FLOW… from my thoughts… as a response to this…

First Thought…

In my loneliest times.... I have evolved... I have spent quality time with me!! Understood what holds me back and learnt to move on. My loneliest times are my greatest teachers!! I used to hate and despise them once... cry out of pain!! till one day... in my lonely tears... I realised... I was missing time with me. You'd be surprised, that even now, there are times when I am so lonely, that even silence attacks... yet, if I am in a crowd for too long I get claustrophobic!! Ironic... you bet!! : Deepanjali

I realised, I was either, feeding off my loneliness… then again… what was positive enough… for loneliness to stick around and feel welcomed!! Thanked Loneliness… and here’s what I thought…

Second Thought….

Lonely should then be good... right! Then why does it sometimes feel so bad... especially when we speak about it!! Ha ha ha. I sometimes make loneliness sound like a terrible thing... but I need my lonely time to write.. work on concepts... read... learn... reach out... pray... meditate... think... what would I do without all of this... and it only happens in my lonely me time!! : Deepanjali

The sensational series… of 6 hours… brought me to a deeper gratitude for someone I hadn’t noticed… or acknowledged… ME!!  So , I looked back at the last couple of years of my life… “Reverse Gratitude” (try it!! You’ll love it)… that brought me to a LESSON… I learnt… from the series of CO-Inspired events… that began with Gaurav’s Question…

ThinK I learned it from my LIFE... ;)
The moment you begin achieving... you begin expecting more achievements and stressing... rarely finding time to accept what you have achieved and celebrate it! : Deepanjali

What it brought me to… the very powerful process of S.T.O.P…

S.T.O.P Start.Thanking.Opportunity.Prompts

… two opportunities to thank… so unrelated… yet.. co-inspired a deep gratitude for the NOW of my thoughts… brought a lesson… to S.T.O.P and thank more for what already IS!!

Gratitude to all that IS for all that IS!!

 

 

 

 

Romancing Destiny ;)

Well well… another girly post… now I guess, I am beginning to see a little different side to romance, than I have romanced all my life!! The power of romancing my dreams to reality so long, that romancing in any other format, is but a brief flight of fantasy. A short walk on the side line of a perfectly power manifested life .

My idea of Prince Charming, well, has kept changing shape and density, with each prospect I met. As I look back with Gratitude… I can understand how wonderful each of them are… each bringing me closer to understanding what I truly do want from a relationship… and I realise… the reason for my inability to hold on… hold strong and take any relationship to the AISLE conclusion has nothing to do with the individuals… my decisions were never about them to start off with…

Well, that calls for a round of applause… for each of you, who tolerated me… spoilt me rotten… gave my dreams priority, still loved me enough to let me be me and last but not the least… married your perfect soul mate… that I may never look back with regret! My today is so beautiful because of YOU!! Thank You!!

Much to the grievance of my kid sisters ranting over the years… that I needed to mellow down a little… as they put it… “Dee, you are so intimidating, you need to mellow down. No man will tolerate your tantrums beyond a point. You need to take care of yourself, lose weight and learn to be more woman like” Trust me… I did try… ha ha ah… with comical results… I suddenly became a damsel in distress… looking out for boyfriend dearest to come up with solutions… so he’d feel good about taking care of things for me… DISTRESS SIGNAL… all his solutions… well.. turned out to be “Ignore it Raja, you don’t have to worry about things that don’t have anything to do with you”… well, that meant… stopping being the natural “Free Consultant” to manifesting love and excitement in the many lives I work with… to disconnect with them… I felt disconnected with the ME, who loves… connecting with people and learning.

oops!! and may I add… this is how… we (my happy ex-boyfriend and I) began to get to know each other and like each other too… . When he found my profile on Orkut… the free advice… by the post… built his curiosity enough to send me a friend request

Some of us, are geared for life by understanding that the greatest source of our joy and happiness comes from within us… waiting to exhale and BE!! More often than not, therefore, we come across as

SELF ABSORBED (which we are), we’ve managed to learn a lot about ourselves first… our pluses, minuses, weaknesses, strengths, positives and negatives…

INTIMIDATING (which we seem to do quite unintentionally),

ARROGANT (maybe, but we’ve spent a quality part of our lives, depending on ourselves).

RIGID (we know what we want, it’s sad that you see it a bad thing),

JUDGEMENTAL (We may sound like that… we have learned to defend ourselves enough to take responsibility for our own actions and lethargy… we don’t blame you for it… do we? We’re pretty aware of our weaknesses, we’ve chosen to embrace them… and work on them pretty conveniently).

LONERS well yes… only on Valentine’s Day though… when the whole world is walking in two’s!! For the rest of the year… well… we have so many dreams working themselves into our reality… that more often, we NEED our own space to allow ourselves the pleasure of being absorbed in making them realities… trust me… with a vision in your mind… there is very little time to be lonely… so many thoughts keep racing through our minds… waiting to CONVERT into something more concrete!

FLIRTS… well WE ARE!! We flirt around with the idea of being in love… all the time. Often finding someone who doesn’t fit the bill… to confirm for ourselves the relevance of why they don’t (just being mean ) We FLIRT around with finding solutions to life’s problems… Just like, life flirt’s around with our single status to remind us of what LIFE WOULD LIKE US TO HAVE! We constantly flirt around with the status “COMMITTED” to test our threshold.

IMPATIENT we ARE!! We take a lot of impulsive decisions and watch them evolve!! We find it difficult to understand, why people take forever to take the next step… sometimes, we realise, they’re still looking for “LOOPHOLE” to fix before they take the BIG RISK!! That means they’re not confident of themselves… it rarely ever has anything to do with us! We don’t understand how people can hold on to a story long enough for it to be cancerous… life is too short to WAIT for the RIGHT MOMENT… NOW is the ONLY TIME you have… every decision we make is in the NOW, then why make us WAIT… Do you think we’ve got nothing better to do… than WAIT… for you to FIX the UNBROKEN, till you actually land up breaking it… to FIX IT!!

Ha ha ha… I could go on with this list… and love every word that it represents… YET today… the purpose is to lay to rest… the JEST and let you in to the secret of Prince Charming that I NOW hold in my vision… He is, somewhere, looking to find ME… then again… He is meant to RECEIVE the COMPLETE ME!! The PACKAGE DEAL of madness… dreams… and absolute confidence… that LIFE is COMPLETE as it IS!

I don’t know HOW… but I KNOW he’ll find me… and when he does… I’ll KNOW it!! For in all that I am… HE already IS… waiting to evolve again… with me… into WE!!

Happy Valentine’s Day to ALL OF YOU!! May you be complete in who you are before you BEGIN to EVOLVE again… with more love than your heart can imagine…YET!!

 

 

 

Things I learnt on my way to “today”

I haven’t been too politically correct for most of my life… I’ve just managed to stay ME… and too can be pretty dangerous  

Last year, I allowed my self the pleasure of “staying out of other people’s business” ha ha ha… choosing to disconnect with a lot of energies, I realised, were pure wasting mine and I discovered!!

There are more people in the world, who want to know what you’re doing, so they can tell you they’re doing better or where you’re going wrong. I learned to be happy for them and smile a mysterious smile… it truly does piss them off, when you don’t counter their claim with sharing your tale of brags for their gossiping pleasure or better still… brag on their behalf too… not too many people can accept compliments without immediately returning the favour

I learnt that you didn’t really need a car to travel in Delhi… till it’s late at night and it’s cold outside… then again… wouldn’t it be so much more fun, to snuggle in with a great book and fall in love with writing again… when we’re old and wrinkled, these blogs will live on… to remind us of being YOUNG The time we spend on our blogs today… are the memories we’ll keep alive… for us to grow old with. Or better still… let the special SOMEONES in your life, create memories with you… that you’ll have something to smile about when life get’s TOUGH on you.

I realised, that everyone will change, including YOU!! And the moment YOU change, the way you see everyone changes… and the way they see you changes too! As long as you don’t levitate staying grounded gives you the right calculation of your height off the ground and the space you need to be YOU @ the fullest potential.

I realised that minding someone else’s business… or relationships… or moods … or needs… takes away precious time from minding the business of BEING YOU!! by the way… when you pull away from their business… they tell you you’re selfish… not realising, it’s their selfishness talking LOUDER THAN THEIR ACCUSATIONS!!

I learnt a valuable lesson, passing on the BUCK isn’t a healthy habit, it often causes you to FIND MORE FAULTS than solutions… never mind, if the risk of failure is yours… so is the grand success. Then why worry about the freaking BUCK… taking it head on… gives you a nose up in winning the CLASSIC all talk and no run… race of the survival of the fittest!

And basically… staying out of other people’s business gives you a better chance of learning more about how to make your own business… a success  

When you stick out of other peoples business… the best weapon is SILENCE in thought and word… more often than not… in the chinese whispers that follow… you’re bound to hear things that you wanted them to KNOW yet, didn’t have to say the words that would build their defense enough to offend you. It is also true… that silence is a WEAPON… that most people are AFRAID of

Remembering that you managed to stay out of other people’s business… for ONE WHOLE YEAR… PRICELESS!! Now, you can talk sense… without offending… since all they REALLY REALLY would want to KNOW is your SIDE OF THE retreat  

then again… family will always be your business and whether or not… you keep your silence… the freaking LAW says they know you BEST… so stay UNPREDICTABLE even to them… Speak only that which they want to hear from you… and do just that which you know to be RIGHT for you. IF you FAIL they’re going to love you anyway… and if you SUCCEED, they’re going to tell you, how important their part in your success is  

Relationships only grow when they’re given space… LIVE and LET LOVE… Don’t tell someone how to love you… till they ask you Allow yourself the pleasure of being loved in many ways… coz the love you ALLOW is an experience. The love you EXPECT is a disappointment… only because you may sometimes over estimate what one person is can give without even telling them what it is that you most WANT from them. And by the way… you may also have an issue, a conflict as to how much to GIVE to the relationship yourself!!

I also learnt… that spending quality time with a child can be therapeutic… they teach you to go easy on yourself and that you actually need to get three things straight in life… to get everything you’ve ever wanted…. Cry enough (without saying a word) you’ll find more people to tend to your needs that you even asked for Smile and Laugh a lot, it keeps everyone around you happy enough… to give you all you’ll ever ask for… I don’t know of one person who doesn’t like to spoil a HAPPY CHILD with their attention, time and anything else it may take to keep the child smiling and last but not the least… SLEEP a lot… it helps in keeping you in a state of rest

Your dreams come from you… focus on them… dream them into your reality… and you’ll realise… the most profitable business of all is the Business of BEing you… for you are UNIQUE in your OFFERING of YOU!!