Things I learnt on my way to “today”

I haven’t been too politically correct for most of my life… I’ve just managed to stay ME… and too can be pretty dangerous  

Last year, I allowed my self the pleasure of “staying out of other people’s business” ha ha ha… choosing to disconnect with a lot of energies, I realised, were pure wasting mine and I discovered!!

There are more people in the world, who want to know what you’re doing, so they can tell you they’re doing better or where you’re going wrong. I learned to be happy for them and smile a mysterious smile… it truly does piss them off, when you don’t counter their claim with sharing your tale of brags for their gossiping pleasure or better still… brag on their behalf too… not too many people can accept compliments without immediately returning the favour

I learnt that you didn’t really need a car to travel in Delhi… till it’s late at night and it’s cold outside… then again… wouldn’t it be so much more fun, to snuggle in with a great book and fall in love with writing again… when we’re old and wrinkled, these blogs will live on… to remind us of being YOUNG The time we spend on our blogs today… are the memories we’ll keep alive… for us to grow old with. Or better still… let the special SOMEONES in your life, create memories with you… that you’ll have something to smile about when life get’s TOUGH on you.

I realised, that everyone will change, including YOU!! And the moment YOU change, the way you see everyone changes… and the way they see you changes too! As long as you don’t levitate staying grounded gives you the right calculation of your height off the ground and the space you need to be YOU @ the fullest potential.

I realised that minding someone else’s business… or relationships… or moods … or needs… takes away precious time from minding the business of BEING YOU!! by the way… when you pull away from their business… they tell you you’re selfish… not realising, it’s their selfishness talking LOUDER THAN THEIR ACCUSATIONS!!

I learnt a valuable lesson, passing on the BUCK isn’t a healthy habit, it often causes you to FIND MORE FAULTS than solutions… never mind, if the risk of failure is yours… so is the grand success. Then why worry about the freaking BUCK… taking it head on… gives you a nose up in winning the CLASSIC all talk and no run… race of the survival of the fittest!

And basically… staying out of other people’s business gives you a better chance of learning more about how to make your own business… a success  

When you stick out of other peoples business… the best weapon is SILENCE in thought and word… more often than not… in the chinese whispers that follow… you’re bound to hear things that you wanted them to KNOW yet, didn’t have to say the words that would build their defense enough to offend you. It is also true… that silence is a WEAPON… that most people are AFRAID of

Remembering that you managed to stay out of other people’s business… for ONE WHOLE YEAR… PRICELESS!! Now, you can talk sense… without offending… since all they REALLY REALLY would want to KNOW is your SIDE OF THE retreat  

then again… family will always be your business and whether or not… you keep your silence… the freaking LAW says they know you BEST… so stay UNPREDICTABLE even to them… Speak only that which they want to hear from you… and do just that which you know to be RIGHT for you. IF you FAIL they’re going to love you anyway… and if you SUCCEED, they’re going to tell you, how important their part in your success is  

Relationships only grow when they’re given space… LIVE and LET LOVE… Don’t tell someone how to love you… till they ask you Allow yourself the pleasure of being loved in many ways… coz the love you ALLOW is an experience. The love you EXPECT is a disappointment… only because you may sometimes over estimate what one person is can give without even telling them what it is that you most WANT from them. And by the way… you may also have an issue, a conflict as to how much to GIVE to the relationship yourself!!

I also learnt… that spending quality time with a child can be therapeutic… they teach you to go easy on yourself and that you actually need to get three things straight in life… to get everything you’ve ever wanted…. Cry enough (without saying a word) you’ll find more people to tend to your needs that you even asked for Smile and Laugh a lot, it keeps everyone around you happy enough… to give you all you’ll ever ask for… I don’t know of one person who doesn’t like to spoil a HAPPY CHILD with their attention, time and anything else it may take to keep the child smiling and last but not the least… SLEEP a lot… it helps in keeping you in a state of rest

Your dreams come from you… focus on them… dream them into your reality… and you’ll realise… the most profitable business of all is the Business of BEing you… for you are UNIQUE in your OFFERING of YOU!!